A few days ago I was doing this exercise from The Artist’s Way which basically asked you to write out the things that you wish you had been told and taught as a child if you have had perfect nurturing. I thought it would be interesting to publish my answer and share the things I wish it took me less time to learn. So here we go.
If I had perfect nurturing I would have been told that what I have inside is far more important to the right people than what I look like on the outside.
I wish I’d been told that it’s absolutely essential for my own happiness to be 110% myself without worrying about what other people might think or say.
I wish I knew that I have an artist’s soul and temperament, and that I should nurture my artistic abilities as much as possible; that being creatively fulfilled will bring me much happiness.
I wish someone taught me that trying to be the girl who’s glorified by the social media (and hence, by most teenagers) will only bring me immense pain because my soul is so much deeper than that, and if I make myself up to look like a doll, nobody’s going to look twice to find the soul that’s inside.
I would have wanted to be told not to rush into studying just for the sake of it, but really take the time to find out what my real passion is first and follow that passion with all my heart in spite of what anyone might say.
I would tell myself to enjoy every moment, especially the time I spend with my friends, traveling etc.
I wish I was taught to take care to form real friendships with people that I can really connect with, instead of getting myself into friendships that are quite toxic with people who don’t really understand me even if they mean well. Don’t do it just out of fear of being alone.
I would tell myself: DO NOT BE AFRAID. Don’t be afraid to try new things, meet new people, express your opinions and be yourself, authentic to who you are 100% of the time. Don’t be afraid to fail or be bad at some things. This is only the initial stage which is essential to discovering what your real talents and passions are. If you never try, you’ll never know.
Last of all, believe in yourself, believe in this love that’s being poured out on you and create the life for yourself that you truly love, not the life based on society’s standards.
I know you have been frightened to death by people who hurt you, abandoned you, but it doesn’t define one tiny bit who you are. You have to go out there and seek out new people and experiences in order to discover who you really are. Hiding in your room and convincing yourself that you don’t want anyone’s company will never make your wide, loving and curious soul happy.